Apart from sorority Carol loved to dance
and she and Bob were always going wherever they had an opportunity. Carol was
very supportive of Bob’s political career and campaigned very hard right along with him.
When all of us in Alpha Tau first heard
of Carol’s first episode with breast cancer we couldn’t believe it was happening to someone so young and so close
to us. The disease seemed to be in remission and Carol was working as a school
nurse just like her mother Barbara had been when we were kids – but then she started having migraine headaches. They became so intense she could not work and function in sorority so she dropped
out of BSP. I stayed close with her through those years doing things with our
families and our children. We loved to take our kids to the Mesa Museum of Art and we would stay and do projects with them;
take them to the movies, zoo and other places. It wasn’t until years
later that we encouraged her to come back and join us again in Xi Alpha. We knew
she couldn’t do things as she used to but we felt that it would be a good place for her to get her mind off of her health
was not long after she re-instated her membership that we heard the cancer was back.
This time it had shown up in other parts of her body and the only way to deal with it was with chemotherapy. I remember visiting her at her mother’s house in Sun City many times. When she lost her hair she was devastated so our group bought her a wig. Nancy Mackay and I went “wig shopping” and took three blonde wigs for Carol to
try on. We ended up having a “Wig Party” and somehow Carol
talked us into putting those wigs on too. Another time Patty Nolan and I visited
she insisted we promise her that we would plan Lindsay’s wedding since she knew she wouldn’t be able to do that. But she did manage to plan for Lindsay’s wedding and loved every minute searching
for decorations from home with her computer. Everything had to match and everything
had to be just right. She drove her friends crazy with all the details but it
was a beautiful wedding and Carol was so happy to see a day she thought she never would.
Patty and I were relieved because the pressure was off of us to meet Carol’s standards. We were so happy that she was able to have so much fun and her health allowed her to be there for
Carol attended sorority meetings as often
as she could. Many of us would pick her up and by this time we had oxygen tanks
and lines to maneuver but that didn’t seem to diminish her zest so everyone made the effort. It really bothered her that she was not able to contribute to our chapter as she had in the past. Sometimes we had to go to her because she wasn’t able to leave her home and
finally after struggling for so long, Carol finally gave up her battle on July 5th 2005.
She exemplified the meaning of what Beta
Sigma Phi is all about.
Life - She lived it wholeheartedly, even when it was difficult.
Learning – She never stopped the process of learning.
Friendship – She had so many friends, some closer than others but
she knew what being a friend was about.
She is truly lighting the way for those